張名雅陀細仔自覺背叛左大仔 向大仔細仔承諾永遠一視同仁

張名雅陀細仔自覺背叛左大仔 向大仔細仔承諾永遠一視同仁

星爸星媽
By PressLogic on 28 Dec 2018

31歲港姐Carat張名雅2016年同圈外老公Joe拉埋天窗,同年宣布懷有仔仔Mario。今年年中宣布有第二胎,係今個月20號Carat順產誕下細仔Milo。

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產後8日嘅Carat係社交平台上載左張大仔Mario同細仔Milo嘅合照,寫著" So, I have cried several times since my pregnancy. When I found out I was pregnant, the first thing that came to my mind was O M G I will have less time to spend on/with Mario and I felt like I have betrayed him. I had teary eyes. Another time it hit me was when I heard stories told by my gynaecologist how some parents tend to focus on the newborn and neglect the older brother. One case was a behaving seven year old kid telling his parents that he will be able to take care of himself and asked them to please focus entirely on the newborn. He was such a thoughtful brother! One day the older brother came back to his mom telling her he was actually upset. The mother bursted into tears. She didn’t realise focusing entirely on the newborn could hurt the son because he told them not to worry. This time tears uncontrollably ran down my cheeks. Another time was when Mario first noticed sai lo Milo is a baby (not just my babybump haha). He continued crying seeing mi mi or ba ba looking at or holding baby Milo. The way he cried hit my heart! To Baby Milo and and Baby Mario: Mi mi and baba created the both of you with love. We will always love the two of you with all our heart! Soon the brotherly love will grow and the two of you will realise how great it is to have a brother!  Cheers to brotherhood ",內容講到Carat陀第二胎嘅時候喊過好多次,最初係因為覺得自己有第二胎會少左時間陪大仔同照顧大仔,感覺上好似背叛左仔仔。一次喊係因為聽到婦產科醫生講有一啲爸爸媽媽會因為有第二胎而忽略左哥哥姐姐。其中一個例子係一個7歲嘅哥哥知道BB出世,就叫爸爸媽媽專心照顧BB,佢可以自己照顧自己。例子中嘅爸爸媽媽不以為然,覺得大仔好生性,點知有日哥哥先同媽媽講其實自己好唔開心,媽媽先醒覺自己太專注於BB原來會傷害到大仔。另一次喊係因爲哥哥Mario見到爸爸媽媽抱住細佬Milo,扭計喊所以搞到Carat都喊埋一份。

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好多爸爸媽媽都認為生多個小朋友可以有令仔女多個玩伴無咁悶。但其實生多個都要考慮到父母有冇足夠嘅時間去照顧兩個小朋友,唔止係話應付日常生活,仲要滿足佢地心理上嘅需求,大人無辦法知道小朋友會因為自己邊一個舉動而唔開心。係小朋友嘅世界入面,爸爸媽媽就係屬於自己嘅。當有多一個人黎到同自己分享爸爸媽媽,其實佢地未必可以接受同消化到。

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正如Carat嘅婦產科醫生所講嘅事例,就算係一個7歲嘅小朋友都好,即使佢地知道BB需要爸爸媽媽、知道需要讓BB、知道自己大個,但當眼前真係望到爸爸媽媽專注係第二個身上,小朋友弱小嘅心靈係未必承受得到。

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Carat係最後向兩個仔仔承諾同老公會永遠咁愛佢地,亦希望兩兄弟嘅愛可以早日萌芽。

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相信到Milo識爬個時一定會同哥哥Mario玩到糖黐豆咁,好快會見到佢地兩個兄弟同心咁搗蛋架喇!

Text : Mami Editorial
Photo Source : 張名雅@Instagram

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